Reclaim the Power of Your Pussy

Photo by Dominik Scythe 

Photo by Dominik Scythe 

I know that many of you vagina owners out there have a very distant relationship with your vagina.  She exists in some kind of dark void buried deep in your subtle awareness.  You don’t look at her or touch her.  You may have gone your entire life without really acknowledging her.  You might reserve her pleasure for the pleasure of others.  Maybe you allow her to enjoy toys but would never feel her warm, juicy texture with your own fingers.  

Some of you might actually dislike your vagina. You might have been told she’s dirty or gross.  You might think she looks weird.  She may have been a source of pain or discomfort.   She may have represented unbearable vulnerability.  She may have meant that you’re a girl and you might blame her for the prejudice and disempowerment the world has shown you simply because you own a vagina.

It’s time to make friends with your vagina.  It’s time to reclaim the power of your pussy!  (Yeah, I said it). 

First, things first, we need to clear up what a vagina actually is.  (Oh, my inner anatomy geek is getting all turned on).  Your vagina is a muscular canal and potential passageway that opens when it wants to envelope something or during childbirth.  Contrary to popular language, it does NOT include all of the external parts like the clitoris and labia.  The external parts are called the vulva.

[A NOTE ABOUT LANGUAGE:  Don't like the word vagina? I get it! You can read my rant on the word "vagina" here. I do choose to use the medical term sometimes in the mix with other words that I like better.]

The vagina begins on the internal side of the introitus, or vaginal opening, and ends at the cervix, the bottom part of the uterus that protrudes into the vagina.  

Your vagina has two main functions 1) pleasure and 2) procreation.  Your vagina is the pathway for all things reproductive including fertility fluids, menstrual blood,  sperm, and babies.  Yes, the vagina is the sacred passageway for creation itself.  Literally and figuratively she is a life giving gateway to cosmic realms.  She is the birth portal of the universe manifest.  She expands and contracts with the pulse of life itself.  Behold the power of your pussy.

Your vagina is also a pleasure portal enveloped in 360 degrees of engorgeable erectile tissue.  When fully aroused, your vagina becomes a symphony of sensational delight.  She has tones low and high, deep and shallow, and when given the right circumstances her song is one of ecstasy.  Yes, girlfriend, this is what your vagina is for.  

P. L. E. A. S. U. R. E.

I’m truly sorry if this is the first time that you’re hearing this.  I also understand if you don’t believe me yet.  Can you at least consider that your vagina is an undiscovered palace of pleasure and power?

If you’re new on the vagina love train, or still trying to figure out how to buy a ticket, here are some simple steps to befriend her.

  1. Fully clothed, find a comfortable position sitting or laying down.  Place one hand on your heart center and one hand over your vulva.  Enjoy slow, full belly breaths.  Practice this daily until it starts to feel comforting and good.
     
  2. Get a handheld mirror and spend some time looking at your vulva.  Look at her folds, her curves, fluids, colors and textures.  Check out where your vaginal opening is, find your clitoris, your inner and outer lips and your urethral opening.  Spend some time lovingly gazing at her.  (I am here to tell you despite what goes through your head, your vulva is perfectly normal and beautiful just the way it is.  They come in a plethora of diverse shapes and colors).  
     
  3. Go back to the first exercise and now practice it naked with one hand on your heart and one hand on your vulva.  The next step would be to find your vaginal opening with your finger and just rest it at the opening.  When your vagina feels safe, it will start to draw your finger in, follow the rhythm of your body, explore.  You can lubricate your finger with organic coconut or sesame oil or an all natural lubricant.
     
  4. Find your cervix.  The easiest position for this is squatting.  Your cervix is located at the end of your vagina and feels like the tip of your nose.  There is a tiny hole at the end of the cervix called the Os.

Now that you’ve started becoming familiar with your vagina and, perhaps even started to love her, you are empowered to know what is healthy and normal for her.  You can begin to observe changes in your fertility cycle.  And last but not least--begin to understand what she likes.  What brings your vagina pleasure? Explore this question beyond the overtly sexual, we have innumerable ways that we can be turned on in life, allow your pussy to guide you with her longing and desires for being expressed and engaged in the world.