Why Culture Needs Rites of Passage - Women's First Blood Ceremony

Why Culture Needs Rites of Passage - Women's First Blood Ceremony

Contemporary western culture is plagued by stunted growth. Most people do not develop beyond an adolescent level of developmental capacity and relationship--as we see mirrored in politics, the president and media. We are missing the transmission of knowledge by true elders as well as rites and rituals that mark our thresholds of growth and transformation. 

In this teaching excerpt from The Artemis School's Evoke Virtual Mystery School I explain how rites of passage work on the BodyMind level to help us integrate new versions of ourselves and leverage our true potential. I speak specifically to a woman's menarche, or first blood ceremony, for supporting us in authentic sexual expression. 

Book Review - Yoni Shakti: A Woman’s Guide to Power and Freedom through Yoga and Tantra

Uma Dinsmore-Tuli has gifted us with the most comprehensive and radical book on women’s sexual health and yoga to date.  Yoni Shakti:  A Woman’s Guide to Power and Freedom through Yoga and Tantra is 600 pages of feminine-infused ritual and practices, historical reclamations, personal narrative, cultural critique and revelations of the inherent superpowers within all womb bearers. The work itself liberates and exudes shakti, feminine energy and power, all the way down to the beautiful illustrations and sacred geometry found among its pages. 

Sex and Your Nervous System

I want to have better sex (but I’m not really sure what that means or what that looks like).

I want to enjoy sex. 

I want to experience more pleasure.

I want to experience orgasm in a different way.

I want to have more connected sex. 

These are some of the most common desires that I initially hear from clients and students that are wanting to work with me. People are attracted to my work because there is something that they want to shift in their sexuality.  What occurs when we begin our work together is that we embark on a winding road that ventures into all kinds of territories that they have never connected to their sexuality.  I ask them about their childhood, stress, lifestyle habits, the various voices in their head and the stories they’re telling about their life, the ways that they process emotion, how and what they eat, their digestion and elimination. We begin to widen the field around sexuality and question what sexuality even means. In a culture that still runs largely on the story of original sin, most of us have cut off and compartmentalized sex from the rest of our lives—which is where the longing for “more” in our sexual lives actually originates from! 

What I have learned from working with many people over the years and from my own healing is that unless there is a supportive foundation that includes a strong sense of safety then the relaxation, receptivity, freedom and openness required for all of the “mores” and “betters” when it comes to sex is not possible. 

Reclaim the Power of Your Pussy

I know that many of you vagina owners out there have a very distant relationship with your vagina.  She exists in some kind of dark void buried deep in your subtle awareness.  You don’t look at her or touch her.  You may have gone your entire life without really acknowledging her.  You might reserve her pleasure for the pleasure of others.  Maybe you allow her to enjoy toys but would never feel her warm, juicy texture with your own fingers.  

Some of you might actually dislike your vagina. You might have been told she’s dirty or gross.  You might think she looks weird.  She may have been a source of pain or discomfort.   She may have represented unbearable vulnerability.  She may have meant that you’re a girl and you might blame her for the prejudice and disempowerment the world has shown you simply because you own a vagina.

It’s time to make friends with your vagina.  It’s time to reclaim the power of your pussy!  (Yeah, I said it). 

First, things first, we need to clear up what a vagina actually is.  (Oh, my inner anatomy geek is getting all turned on).  Your vagina is a muscular canal and potential passageway that opens when it wants to envelope something or during childbirth.  Contrary to popular language, it does NOT include all of the external parts like the clitoris and labia.  The external parts are called the vulva.